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“She thinks it's my fault. It makes me feel like something hot and heavy's pressing into my head, my neck buckling under the weight of it.”
― Tess Sharpe, The Girls I've Been

“Blaming is a universal human trait that helps people feel good while feeling bad, or as my old teacher Elvin Semrad used to say: 'Hate makes the world go round.”
― Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

“When it comes to blame... you can't blame a rainbow for the rain.”
― Eric DeSio

“You can blame everyone for your circumstances, but that will not change the fact that you still must live in them. Change does not come until you take responsibility for your choices and proceed to do something. You must make the change happen. You must do it. In truth, no one else is to blame if things fail to change.”
― Richelle E. Goodrich, Being Bold: Quotes, Poetry, & Motivations for Every Day of the Year

“Not having money isn't a personal failing. Having it is almost always an accident of birth or pure luck. I understand that not being able to pay for things feels like a failure, but it isn't. You haven't done anything wrong.”
― Sam Burns, Fluke and the Faithless Father

“My parents stare straight ahead, their anger and grief palpable enough to taste. I open my mouth to let it all in and swallow it whole, where deep in my belly it turns into blame.”
― Kate Elizabeth Russell, My Dark Vanessa

“Often, those who are the target of your blame have no idea (or could care less) about how you really feel. You only hurt yourself by being a prisoner of your own bitterness and resentment. Your feelings may be justified, but they will not help you become happy, healthy, and successful. Ultimately, isn’t that what you really want?”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“The truth is, when you stop acting like a victim, you’ll start attracting a new group of healthy friends who are interested in you as a person, not just what they can do for you.
These are the relationships you want. Healthy relationships have a give and take. You need to give and receive. This is how you really rid yourself of anger and resentment. It’s scary because at first you get to worry that you’ll be all alone, that no one will ever love you. Start small and see what happens.”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“Fuckboys (and Fuckboy Prospects), read this closely: When a woman breaks up with you (usually because she is fed up with your shit) it’s never easy. I understand your ego is bruised, you can’t imagine another dude doing things you used to do with/to her and that shit will eat you up! I understand.
That doesn’t mean you should disrespect her – or kill her goddamit! That doesn’t mean you should post revenge porn pictures and videos of her to your 5000 online friends. It does not justify you calling her a hoe to ease your lil battered ego. Doing any of those makes you a certified upper echelon fuckboy bro.
Walk away – just go on airplane mode, remove yourself from the situation and allow yourself to heal. If you are one of those social-media love butterflies who advertises every moment with your boo, then log out of all your profiles and go into cocoon mode.”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“My son, you are what you are in the present. Leave the past behind; don’t carry blame. Eliminate all anxiety about the future. Prepare to work for your evolution until the last instant of your life. Let no one be your judge; be your own judge. If you want to triumph, learn to fail. Never define yourself by what you possess. Never speak about yourself without allowing yourself the possibility to change. Think that you do not exist individually, that what you do does itself. Only by accepting that nothing is yours will you be the owner of all. Become a total offering. Give, but oblige no one to receive. Make no one feel guilty; you are an accomplice to whatever happens. Stop asking for things and start thanking. Obtain in order to give away.”
― Alejandro Jodorowsky, Where the Bird Sings Best

“In the end, they're the only ones who can answer for themselves. So stop blaming yourself."
"I can't seem to help it."
"Bullshit. The truth is you don't WANT to. It makes you feel good to blame yourself. You know why?" Kira shook her head, mute. "Because it gives you a sense of control. The hardest lesson in life is learning to accept that there are some things we can't change." Falconi paused, his eyes hard and glittering. "Blaming yourself is perfectly normal, but it doesn't do you any good. Until you stop, unless you CAN stop, you'll never be able to fully recover.”
― Christopher Paolini, To Sleep in a Sea of Stars

“Sixty-four has a way of forgetting what twenty-one was like. So we won't talk about blame.”
― Stephen King, The Stand

“When no one is to blame, everyone is to blame”
― Philip Anthony Hopkins - Pope Benedict XVI

“Please," Thanh says. Because Giang should be angry. Because Giang should be blaming her. Because--because anger is easier, and compassion hurts so much.”
― Aliette de Bodard, Fireheart Tiger

“You can blame other people all you like, but that won't change the fact that the problem is with you, not with them.”
― Sarvesh Jain

“Everyone loves to blame everyone. But never themselves. They never want to own their mistakes. Sometimes they don't even bother to explain why they blame. They just want to blame.”
― Sarvesh Jain

“Never let anyone make you feel guilty of something you're not responsible for. Never let them get under your skin.”
― Sarvesh Jain

“Over the years, I have grown to see people in need of a savior so bad that they would eat grass, drink petrol, and be fed rats and snakes all in the name of finding a messiah. I’ve seen people attempt to deal with the loss of their jobs or school or other livelihood forms or desperately attempt to scramble out of poverty by believing in the most laughable of saviors and ‘miracle workers’.
I’ve witnessed women battered, scorned and stripped of their poise and essence because they could not walk away from scoundrels they’d previously deemed their ‘saviors’. Such relationships lead to a savior-martyr relationship. In other words – a certified disaster-in-waiting.
Martyr complex is a collateral product of blame. You blame someone for your current misfortunes therefore you go looking for someone else to save you. You blame yourself for your shortcomings and therefore there must be someone out there who can redeem your broken self.”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“What is your problem?
What’s keeping you stuck and upset?
Why do you blame other people?
Be honest with yourself. It’s not easy, but without doing this, you won’t go anywhere. Stop blaming other people. It doesn’t help. It doesn’t change the situation. Actually, it won’t even make you feel better. It’s a great waste of your time and energy.”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“Blamers: Before you judge someone for being too emotional or for being a serial whiner, conduct a self-inquisition and you might discover that you are a deadpan asshole yourself. Your emotional coldness should therefore not result in you judging other people for being too emotional.”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“ext time, before you give yourself a self-diagnosis that you are a weak wimp or too fragile or too caring, PAUSE, take a step back and ask yourself if the people surrounding you aren’t a bunch of assholes.”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“Accept the blame and win the game

We will find scores of opportunities to blame people and circumstances, but the one who wins is the one who accepts the blame and finds a solution to the problem. Most will either say the problem doesn't exist or blame others for it.”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“Never in our history was we able to blame someone else for our troubles.”
― Will Rogers

“How typical,' he said. 'First the people of Swat fall under the spell of the Taliban, then they are killed by the Taliban, and now they are blamed for the Taliban!”
― Malala Yousafzai, I Am Malala: How One Girl Stood Up for Education and Changed the World

“When you break the news of death, you become Death, and there’s always a sickle somewhere.”
― A.D. Aliwat, In Limbo

“You blame others to save attacking yourself. Neither is necessary. You are not as you think and nor is anyone else.”
― Donna Goddard, Waldmeer

“How easily one can blame others for the wrong they did. People should stop doing that.”
― Sarvesh Jain

“People blame more when they feel attacked, so instead of condemning their feelings, be open to them. Listen, understand, and then stay quiet.”
― Sarvesh Jain

“I think it’s very easy to victim blame. One thing we don’t understand is blaming them only makes them doubt on everything else they do.”
― Sarvesh Jain

“It’s easy to blame someone else for all the misfortunes of your life. It may look even satisfying for a moment but you know in your gut that blaming never solves problem. And it sure as hell never make anyone’s life better.”
― Sarvesh Jain