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“Recognizing that people's reactions don't belong to you is the only sane way to create. If people enjoy what you've created, terrific. If people ignore what you've created, too bad. If people misunderstand what you've created, don't sweat it. And what if people absolutely hate what you've created? What if people attack you with savage vitriol, and insult your intelligence, and malign your motives, and drag your good name through the mud? Just smile sweetly and suggest - as politely as you possibly can - that they go make their own fucking art. Then stubbornly continue making yours.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear

“Let me list for you some of the many ways in which you might be afraid to live a more creative life: You鈥檙e afraid you have no talent. You鈥檙e afraid you鈥檒l be rejected or criticized or ridiculed or misunderstood or鈥攚orst of all鈥攊gnored. You鈥檙e afraid there鈥檚 no market for your creativity, and therefore no point in pursuing it. You鈥檙e afraid somebody else already did it better. You鈥檙e afraid everybody else already did it better. You鈥檙e afraid somebody will steal your ideas, so it鈥檚 safer to keep them hidden forever in the dark. You鈥檙e afraid you won鈥檛 be taken seriously. You鈥檙e afraid your work isn鈥檛 politically, emotionally, or artistically important enough to change anyone鈥檚 life. You鈥檙e afraid your dreams are embarrassing. You鈥檙e afraid that someday you鈥檒l look back on your creative endeavors as having been a giant waste of time, effort, and money. You鈥檙e afraid you don鈥檛 have the right kind of discipline. You鈥檙e afraid you don鈥檛 have the right kind of work space, or financial freedom, or empty hours in which to focus on invention or exploration. You鈥檙e afraid you don鈥檛 have the right kind of training or degree. You鈥檙e afraid you鈥檙e too fat. (I don鈥檛 know what this has to do with creativity, exactly, but experience has taught me that most of us are afraid we鈥檙e too fat, so let鈥檚 just put that on the anxiety list, for good measure.) You鈥檙e afraid of being exposed as a hack, or a fool, or a dilettante, or a narcissist. You鈥檙e afraid of upsetting your family with what you may reveal. You鈥檙e afraid of what your peers and coworkers will say if you express your personal truth aloud. You鈥檙e afraid of unleashing your innermost demons, and you really don鈥檛 want to encounter your innermost demons. You鈥檙e afraid your best work is behind you. You鈥檙e afraid you never had any best work to begin with. You鈥檙e afraid you neglected your creativity for so long that now you can never get it back. You鈥檙e afraid you鈥檙e too old to start. You鈥檙e afraid you鈥檙e too young to start. You鈥檙e afraid because something went well in your life once, so obviously nothing can ever go well again. You鈥檙e afraid because nothing has ever gone well in your life, so why bother trying? You鈥檙e afraid of being a one-hit wonder. You鈥檙e afraid of being a no-hit wonder”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear

“Perfectionism is a particularly evil lure for women, who, I believe, hold themselves to an even higher standard of performance than do men. There are many reasons why women鈥檚 voices and visions are not more widely represented today in creative fields. Some of that exclusion is due to regular old misogyny, but it鈥檚 also true that鈥攁ll too often鈥攚omen are the ones holding themselves back from participating in the first place. Holding back their ideas, holding back their contributions, holding back their leadership and their talents. Too many women still seem to believe that they are not allowed to put themselves forward at all, until both they and their work are perfect and beyond criticism. Meanwhile, putting forth work that is far from perfect rarely stops men from participating in the global cultural conversation. Just sayin鈥�. And I don鈥檛 say this as a criticism of men, by the way. I like that feature in men鈥攖heir absurd overconfidence, the way they will casually decide, 鈥淲ell, I鈥檓 41 percent qualified for this task, so give me the job!鈥� Yes, sometimes the results are ridiculous and disastrous, but sometimes, strangely enough, it works鈥攁 man who seems not ready for the task, not good enough for the task, somehow grows immediately into his potential through the wild leap of faith itself. I only wish more women would risk these same kinds of聽wild leaps. But I鈥檝e watched too many women do the opposite. I鈥檝e watched far too many brilliant and gifted female creators say, 鈥淚 am 99.8 percent qualified for this task, but until I master that last smidgen of ability, I will hold myself back, just to be on the safe side.鈥� Now, I cannot imagine where women ever got the idea that they must be perfect in order to be loved or successful. (Ha ha ha! Just kidding! I can totally imagine: We got it from every single message society has ever sent us! Thanks, all of human history!) But we women must break this habit in ourselves鈥攁nd we are the only ones who can break it. We must understand that the drive for perfectionism is a corrosive waste of time, because nothing is ever beyond criticism. No matter how many hours you spend attempting to render something flawless, somebody will always be able to find fault with it. (There are people out there who still consider Beethoven鈥檚 symphonies a little bit too, you know, loud.) At some point, you really just have to finish your work and release it as is鈥攊f only so that you can go on to make other things with a glad and determined heart. Which is the entire point. Or should be.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Big Magic: How to Live a Creative Life, and Let Go of Your Fear